Pathways Courses - It Won't Happen to Me:

It Won't Happen to Me:
Substance Abuse-Related Violence Against Women for Anyone Concerned About The Issues

Supplements

The right to emotional support
The right to be heard by the other (he listens to you) and to be answered with courtesy
The right to have your own view, even if your mate has a different view
The right to have your own feelings and experience recognized
The right to receive a sincere apology for any jokes you find offensive
The right to clear and informative answers to questions that concern what is your business
The right to live free from accusations and blame
The right to live free from criticism and judgment
The right to have your work and your interests spoken of with respect
The right to encouragement
The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
The right to live free from coerced drinking, drug use, or sex
The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
The right to not be called by a name that devalues you
The right to be asked with respect, rather than ordered
The right to be treated with respect, which means your boyfriend or partner:
- Is willing to compromise
- Lets you feel comfortable being yourself
- Is able to admit to being wrong
- Tries to resolve conflict by talking honestly
- Enables you to feel safe being with him
- Respects your feelings, your opinions, and your friends
- Accepts your saying no to things you do not want to do (such as sex or drinking)
- Accepts your changing your mind
- Respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship

When someone loves you, you feel valued, respected, and free to be yourself.

"Rape Awareness for Nice Guys." Oklahoma City: Oklahoma Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 2000.

"Trust Betrayed." West Virginia Department of Health and Human Resources, 1999.