CONTENTS

About This Course

Table of Contents

1. Getting The Basics
2. Substance Abuse
3. Violence Against Women
4. Violent Men
5. Alcohol and Violence
6. Alcohol, Drugs and Sexual Assault (Date Rape)
7. Preventing Sexual Assault
8. After a Rape or Sexual Assault
9. Assistance - Women
10. Assistance - Men
11. Legal Options

Supplements
Resources
Glossary
Fact Sheets

It Won't Happen to Me:
Substance Abuse-Related Violence Against Women for Anyone Concerned About The Issues

How To Be a Good Listener

1. When a person asks you to listen and instead you give advice, you have not truly listened. You do not need to offer ideas of what she should do. Just listen.
2. When a person asks you to listen and you tell her why she should not feel the way she does, you are ignoring her feelings and reducing how important they are. Accept her feelings for what they are, no matter how irrational or "crazy" they may be. In this way she can start to understand or sort out her feelings and not have to defend them to you.
3. Listen. Don't talk or do anything. Just be quiet and hear her.
4. When you do something for her that she can do for herself, even if you are trying to be helpful, you add to her feelings of failure and fear.
5. If you need to talk, let her finish first.⁴